In good ways, in bad ways, the world is never static. There are some that say that to be still is to be dead, and while I think that’s a touch dramatic, the idea is sound. So it doesn’t surprise me that when the pendulum is swinging as wildly as it is at current (big marriages, big deaths, etc), that there’s even upheaval in my otherwise placid life.
It’s the good kind, though.
My sister, whom I shall call Blur here for the moment, poked me on messenger. She never pokes me on messenger, so it didn’t surprise me that she got to the point immediately. Apparently, her boyfriend proposed to her a few nights back, and she surprised none of us by accepting. I’m thrilled – poor guy survived me (I erm… came on a bit strong when we were kids and apparently traumatized him – whups!), and as ridiculously happy as my sister has been, I expected this day would come along eventually. My mother commented that they’re looking to get married next April, which also pleases me – I can’t see the point of a long engagement. It gives Nagging Nellies more time to try and force you to have a wedding their way instead of yours.
I’m also amused at the timing of this, as I thought about her extensively over the weekend. She had always declared that if and when she got married, it would be THE PARTY OF THE CENTURY. Unsurprisingly, such a big event as the Royal Wedding (My mother always plotted to marry her to Wills somehow, ha ha) made me smile and wonder how her event would compare to such a thing, if it ever happened. She has confirmed that she wants crazy Royal Wedding-style hats (at this exact second; this is definitely likely to change/adjust), and I’ve decided if I can make it, I’m going to totally take a sombrero and change the danglies to odd things like rings, ice cubes with flies in them, cake babies, etc. Fun!
I feel kind of bad for our baby sister in this, though. She’s getting married this summer, for which I am also thrilled. However, I feel that I’m coming off a bit more excited for Blur’s wedding, and with good reason. I actually know her fiance; babygirl’s fiance seems totally nice, but I don’t know him at all yet. Blur’s wedding will be in our hometown – babygirl’s wedding is in his hometown, as she’s also marrying outside the great nation-state of Texas. To add insult to injury, the probability of me attending Blur’s wedding is significantly higher for a multitude of reasons – there’s the chance the TSA will quit assaulting people by then; there’s legislation pertaining to that in the Texan Congress. I’ll have my dual citizenship, which means it’s more likely that I’ll have my name ‘fixed’ in the States as well. I suspect she’ll also be getting married in our hometown, which y’know… that’s kind of where I want to go if and when we make it to the States next. We don’t have oodles of dosh to go travelling widely, so… Add in the fact that Blur and I were a quasi-matched set most of our growing up, and sure, it would easily seem that I favour her, even if I’m not trying to.
Gotta love family politics, right? *chuckles*
Anyways, suffices to say that I am excited for both of them, and hope they enjoy married life as much as I do. That they get along with their in-laws, and feel nothing but comfort, love, and joy. But that they can still have the strength to quarrel and smooth out the lumps together, and remember that key word – together. I don’t think it’s going to be a real issue with either of them; they’re strong, smart women with realistic ideas, and I think the absolute world of both of them.
Now, to go dab my eyes and feel like a doddering old mother-proud lady! *grins*