I’m sure that I’m boring my friends who read me everywhere, and I apologise for that. I do try to respect my readers by giving them different content everywhere, but there comes a time once in awhile where there is something that is so big deal that I feel the need to monopolize all my spaces with it. This one in particular is a blog post a friend linked to on Facebook last night:
Learned Helplessness: A Cage Called Harassment
The long and the short of it is thus – nobody owes anyone anything sexually. I know that the concept of Friendzoning is very popular right now, and it’s bullshit. Sure, it sucks if you like someone in a romantic fashion and they don’t reciprocate, but that’s that – if you are actually their friend, you accept it and move on. You DO NOT harass and threaten them. You.do.not reduce them to an object whose only importance to you is sexual. That is repugnant and makes you sub-human, yo. That isn’t to say that it’s wrong to find someone attractive or desirable – it just means that you have absolutely no right to force your feelings on another person for your own ends. Male or female, you are your own damned person with your own damned feelings and your own right to self – if anyone threatens, harasses, or objectifies you and you can not make them stop, then DO take it to the authorities. Just because they think society has told them they’re owed a right to you, they aren’t. Set them straight, but above all – be safe. Don’t try to reason with someone who has threatened to kill you and rape you – call the cops immediately. It is NOT funny, it is NOT cute – it is dangerous.
Anyways, pass that link around, talk about it, make people think. We have a duty to society to stand up against the bad and the dangerous, to change the discourse, to change the shape of our world… so do it. Much love to all.