An Odd Concept
Hola world – this’ll be a short one, as I’m already a bit zonked out from a morning spent hanging with the in-laws. It basically boils down to a question – what the frack is up with this idea of ‘beating the bullies’? I saw a Jessie J video this morning, where it’s all braggadocio and snottitude about how she’s made it and they haven’t and nyah nyah nyah, and I rolled my eyes. She’s not the first I’ve seen doing it – merely the most recent. And I wonder why this childish and asinine assertion is ‘winning’, ’cause it’s really not. Bad karma breeds bad karma, and you and your ilk are only spreading more bad feelings… and for what? A hollow sense of victory? Get over yourselves, kthxbye.
Mind, this isn’t me approving of anyone having been bullied or bullying itself. I myself have been bullied my whole life, and can point to examples as recently as this year of vicious and nasty attacks on my personage. But I refuse to give in and give them the attention and bad feelings they want. I refuse to bow down and play the victim, to let them know they’ve gotten to me, to let them win. I perhaps carry it too far and bury it too deep, mind, but I try my hardest to not breed bad, but rather to kill with kindness and love and as much sincerity as I can muster. And if I can? I rob them of the attention they seek – the trolls shall not be fed by me if I can help it!
Anwyays, what I guess I’m trying to say is that if your intent is to stand up to bullies, turning around and bullying them doesn’t really work. Remember the golden rule, and while it is kind of a pipe dream, it’s a worthwhile one to try and live by and hold up. And having said that, I hope that everyone is having a wonderful weekend – I’m going to get back to enjoying mine.
I think that it might be the articulation and phrasing of it that is the problem, but I think the vocalisation of beating the bullies is one of giving one’s self a feeling of empowerment, something which is seriously damaged by at least juvenile bullying. Acknowledging that one has the self-worth, the ability, the resilience to get through adversity, might not be to everyone’s taste, but I don’t necessarily think that it’s got to be about doing down someone else either. It might just be a case of needing to vocalise in order to convince oneself. Being kind to oneself, being able to recognise good qualities in oneself, being able to acknowledge oneself – they’re valuable tools for some people in their quest to cope with life. It might not be a way you choose for yourself, but neither would I discourage others from using their own methods of coping, even if I might mildly encourage them to think about whether they’re attempting to put others down in order to feel good, rather than seeking to acknowledge their own good qualities in order to feel good. I don’t agree with the former, but the latter can have merits for the right person.
Valid points – thanks! Yes, we all do have our own methods of coping and building ourselves up, but I will never be able to understand doing it at the expense of others. Or, at least, feeling the need to do the kicking when on top – that’s how I perceive that particular stance. Looking yourself in the mirror and saying nice things – that doesn’t hurt anyone. Standing on a platform sneering down… bad mojo. I know the urge, truly, but it just… *shakes head*